Can you guess how many women out there aren’t enjoying the feeling of penetration? How many women are trying with all their might to get wet only to be greeted with brief dampness? Can you guess how many women rarely if ever feel totally turned on? SO. FUCKING. MANY.
There is an epidemic of women not truly enjoying sex. I get messages galore from women with different stories that end the same: “I don’t have any sexual desire — I think there’s something wrong with me.”
It breaks my heart and at the same times gets me excited. Why do I get excited? Because I’ve been there. I’ve walked that desire-less highway. I’ve found penetration painful. I’ve struggled to conjure wetness only to be greeted with tumbleweeds from the Sahara. And the best part: I know what it’s like to go from this minimal sexual desire to huge squirty arousal that I can access whenever I choose.
I work with women who are ready to claim their arousal. They’re ready to own their sexuality. They’re ready to disentangle themselves from the Hollywood / porno story of a woman having her skirt pulled up, being penetrated and cumming within thirty seconds.
If you’re reading this and nodding then you know now: YOU’RE NOT ALONE. This is the body’s response to a lifetime of having sex that’s not about you, from never learning the power and beauty of your sexuality, from trauma, and from a long ’n shitty stretch of women’s pleasure being shamed at every turn and massively skewed by a consumeristic society.
It’s totally shit and yet there’s a sliver lining: it’s possible to heal and claim a sexual desire, a sustained horniness and a sexual power that is honest, embodied and 100% yours. It takes practice and it takes a willingness to hang out in the uncomfortable. But fuck you me, it’s worth it.
WHOLE ▽ Activating the Pussy & Womb for Sexual & Creative Liberation Oct 13-27 (an eCourse right here on Insta)
1:1 Solo-Sessions every Friday (concessions available)
Pussy Gazing October 5 in London
Forest-side pussy power retreat Nov 24 / East Sussex
-Lx (links in bio! Pictured here with my Pussy sister @grace___hazel. She does amazing work. Follow her!