As far back as I can remember, I wondered why in the hell ANYONE would EVER CHOOSE TO BECOME A MOTHER! Motherhood seemed like the most devalued role EVER and I wanted NO PART IN IT.
I wanted to strut around the public sphere (probably receive trophies and accolades), all the while moving UP UP UP, making the dollars and BEING SOMEBODY! I never wanted to wear a pantsuit but I never wanted to wear mom jeans either!
When it came time to face the music that I ACTUALLY WANTED TO HAVE CHILDREN, I chose to actively heal my relationship to motherhood. I knew I couldn’t become that which I didn’t fully value so I began a journey, one that I called RADICALISING MOTHERHOOD. When I was interviewed by the @bbcnews yesterday, I had to define what this meant to me. It’s a work in progress, but HERE IT GOES!
Firstly, radicalising motherhood is about elevating motherhood from LESSER-THAN to CELEBRATED and injecting fundamental change into the way I relate to this role. It’s my desire to be curious about the way I view and connect to pregnancy, birth and motherhood and TO QUESTION what I’ve been taught to believe about these experiences in a woman’s life. It’s also my deep desire to support curiosity in others, SPARKING EMPOWERMENT ⚡️ so that we can each THINK FOR OURSELVES and make decisions that are RIGHT FOR US INDIVIDUALLY.
Finally, it’s about taking all of these topics (leaky boobs, scans, birth choices, postpartum sexy-times) and speaking openly about them. It’s about removing the shame and uncertainty and injecting a good DOSE OF HUMOUR, REVERENCE & LOVE into the centre of it all. I believe in MAMAS. I believe in MOTHERHOOD. AND I think (and feel in my bones and womb and heart) that it’s high time to radicalise THE HELL out of this role.